Sexilosophy #33 Trust again in Bed
Daily wisdom stretching on sex, love, and relationship from a philosophical quote.
Epictetus: “Don’t demand that things happen as you wish, but wish that they happen as they do happen, and you will go on well.”
When you ended a relationship because someone cheated on you, your goal in your next relationship is not to find a person who won’t cheat on you — — even that's a very reasonable wish to have — — but to find the inner strength not to be disturbed by whatever external drama you might encounter and the courage to have difficult conversions with compassion from early on to build resilience within you and the relationship.
You might ask “after I got cheated on, how can I still trust another person?” The outer-trust on a person other than yourself is always an illusion because the trust comes from a source you can not control.
We need more inner-trust, the trust towards us, the self-compassion and self-love towards us, knowing that any adversities we have in the relationship, we can trust ourselves to be creative enough to bring advantage to us, be it personal growth or relationship growth.
A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking because her trust is not on the branch but on its own wings.